You want it too much

Someone once said to me "You want it too much". They were saying that I wanted success too badly and that it would inevitably spell disaster. Like I would come across as desperate or a "loose cannon" to anyone that I was " trying to do business with".A border line lunatic trying to get rich with little effort to show for it.

How could anyone put a label to desire? Who are they to put a name on the fuel that lights the fire. If I possess a burning desire to succeed then making mistakes won't derail my train. Wanting something intensely sounds much better than just holding on to a pipe dream and hoping that one day your  genie shows up on your doorstep promising you three wishes.

Wanting something badly enough will mean that you are likely to be able to be specific about what it is you truly want in life. You may not know exactly how you are going to get there, but you will have one advantage over most people: You can then say without hesitation that YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.

From there you give credibility to the words " nothing's gonna stop me". It won't matter who laughs at you or who tells you your crazy or that it will never work. You can just laugh and say that yes, I am crazy. It takes a truck load of crazy to become successful. The kind of

Success that can be defined by the letters :

L, E, G, A,  C,  &  Y. 

Can I be in your blog Daddy?

Daddy: Okay Malachi, I am doing a blog post. What should I talk about?

Malachi: But daddy, what should our channel name be? Ok, I'm gonna start making up names for our channel. I'm gonna call it the Daddy and Malachi show. Let's add some more pictures.

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Daddy: Okay, here you go.

( he would pick the picture of me with the head injury).

Malachi : Can I just have one more candy? Please? Please?

Daddy: OK, one more.   

Malachi : Let's go.

Daddy : Go where?

Malachi : Get the candy

Daddy: What candy did you get?

Malachi: Skittles.

So, my son thinks that a blog post and a YouTube channel are the same thing. For now, I will not try to explain 21st century social media. 

Daddy :

What else should I say today?

Malachi: Um, I don't know. 

The end of today's Malachi inspiration I guess.

I'm gonna quit my day job

Tomorrow morning I have to get up before most of the west coast does to go to a job that I despise.

Wait a minute. That should read "a job that I hate".  The job wasn't at all what I thought it was going to be.

Don't quit your day job? Well, I am planning to do just that. Obviously, that famous little line has other connotations than just employment. Since,  I am not a comedian in training, I'll use it here.

Let's keep in short tonight. I have to awake in a few hours to go to that wonderful job of mine.

Ok, I will cut to the chase. Sometimes it's okay to quit. Life's way too short to keep doing things that aren't doing you any good. Quit this, quit that. Some things and some people deserve your quitting them. If you don't, they will eat you up inside until you regret the last 5 wasted years of your life.
Quit those things, yes. Your dreams and goals? Never.

Share the journey

Look up personal development on YouTube and it seems everyone wants to tell the world about their personal success story. They will share how they got there and the struggles they endured on their way to the mountain top.

But very few people ever document their journey. They don't share the frustration and the sleepless nights that tend that inevitably accompany the long road to success. When we don't hear about the journey, we miss out on the failures and the pain.

What else could we call it but "pain"?
The word "journey" could easily be replaced with "struggle". This struggle comes complete with the aforementioned frustration and sleepless nights. But it also accompanied by fear, loneliness, stress, anxiety, and a dozen other emotions.

The truth of the journey to success is that is hard in capital letters!  No one really talks about how difficult it is to break away from obscurity and find your way to notoriety. Rags to riches and poor to wealthy. None of these successes happened overnight.

There were long hours, missed holidays and birthdays, missed meals, lost sleep, and a host of other sacrifices. Friendships were damaged or lost and marriages were tested or all together broken.

Ultimately, the price to pay for success is an individual one, different from person to person. However, the consensus among nearly every success story is that the journey there was not an easy one. Lottery winners, inheritances, and trust fund recipients are another story. Anything that one does not have to work for to get is ultimately unworthy of true definitions of success.

Change you first

Your credit card debt seems insurmountable. Your marriage is falling apart. Your teenager hates your guts. If the sky were falling, it might just fall on you only. Most of your friendships don't last.
Being overweight is something you just accept because the struggle is just too hard. Perhaps you are not overweight ; you just hate your body because you are always sick or lacking energy
 Meeting new people is scary for you because you hate talking about your life. Not to mention your confidence level is non- existent and your communication skills are sub-par.

What am I going to do , you ask yourself. In spite of all your flaws and struggles , you still dream of some how doing some good in your life.

What you need to do is change yourself first! Change you first! Work hard on you. Start with small things and let the big things take care of themselves.

Maybe you could get a life coach or a personal trainer. A new hobby might be walking or bike riding. Don't think of exercise as something you have to do
Try fooling your brain into thinking the exercise is just a new hobby. You might just start to enjoy your hobby long before measurable results appear.

Examine your life and see what areas need improving. Above all else, seek help!!! Whether it be professional help or just a caring friend, never try to make huge changes on your own.

I have had to overcome so much in my life and I have lots of help along the way.

YOU CAN DO IT! I realize that is a cliche statement, but so what? What's the alternative. Your life continues to spiral out of control until you have no choice but to demand help.

Make the decision now that you are going to change your life. Don't wait.
Your body and your mind are worth it when it comes to putting in the extra effort.

One more thing, it's true what they say " when you change, everything changes!" While it is true that not all change is good, in your case we are talking positive, lasting change.

So do it. Change you first.

I am not your motivator

I am not your motivator. You won't get a phone call from me at 3 a.m. telling you to get your tail in gear and go after what you want. No one will provide you with your own cheerleading squad or a pep talk. Of course, others might be able to be there for you when you reach out to them. But the cold, hard truth is that you have to be your own motivator. You have to reach down deep in your gut and find your own motivation.

Motivation doesn't ever come easy. Finding it requires determination and tenacity. We all have to figure out what motivates and then we have to act on that motivation.

Staying motivated can prove even mor difficult. With life's distractions and detours, even the best of intentions can destroy your motivation.

Our favorite television shows have been killing our motivation since its invention. Detours come in the form of things such as a new job, a move to another state, or even a death in the family.

Do you think that you could be motivated enough to sacrifice going to see the big game for the sake of your dreams and goals? Could you make the hard choice to wait on having children or even dating at all.

Your life is going to hurl countless motivation killers at you like missles. What will you do? How will you respond?

Stay motivated ! Don't quit. Don't let the distractions of life completely derail your progress. You dreams and goals are very important. Keep fighting for them. Your future depends on it.

To do list hysteria

I always have a to-do list.  It's rarely on paper or rarely leaves my head but it's a to-do list. It is full of long- over due things that drive me crazy that they are not done.

Whether it's paperwork or phone calls, the undone threatens to undo me. It's headache causing, stress inducing, and mind numbing irritation.

Don't bother me kids, I am working on
my to do list. Wait, I forget. My kids point to a half dozen items on the list.
Maybe that's why it drives me so crazy. The idea that there are important things that pertain to my kids explains the stress.

What's more is that this list is continually growing and that only adds to the hysteria. Get one thing accomplished and two more items replace it.

What do I do to get a handle on my to do list before it consumes me? Well,  I only try to get one thing done at a time. Save multi-tasking for some other work-a-holic. Tackling one list item at a time makes it seems so much more manageable.

The opposite of overwhelming stress that accompanies to do list management is the triumphant feeling that comes with the completion of eaach individual task.

One thing at a time. Keep it simple silly. Don't let your list overwhelm you. Overwhelm your list with progress and movements. Get 'er done and get it done.

Turn your to to do list into a I got it done list.